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Wanted: Wedding Victory Playlist Suggestions

Wedding chalk decorations

We received a copy of our official marriage license today, so as Father-in-Law says, we’ve “done it now.”

WVT kicks off in just over a week. We leave next Wednesday, June 12th, for a wedding in New Hampshire. What better way to kick off a wedding victory tour?

Harrison has been planning furiously: making extensive route maps and deciding which destinations we’ll hit along the way.

While we’re driving roughly 10,000 miles, we’re going to need some good music. Unfortunately, our current selection is mostly limited to burned CDs of alternative pop-punk from our high school days. And while I do love Something Corporate, I’m pretty sure a new marriage can only endure so much New Found Glory, Yellowcard, and Fallout Boy.

Thus, let’s continue with the crowdsourcing of this wedding victory tour! I am asking you, our friends and family and Internet creepers, to suggest music for our very long journey.

Do you have a favorite song for roadtripping?

How about some lyrics that really speak to you on the open road?

What about that album that really brings you back to middle school/high school/college/summer 2003?

These are all perfect suggestions for our Wedding Victory Tour Playlist, and we want to hear them!

Really! We are going to need a lot of music for this trip. Please use this form to suggest a song or album for us to add to play with the windows down (or maybe up) on the open road. Make sure to tell us why this musical selection is a particularly good addition to our WVT playlist.

Even better, tell us who you are and leave your phone number or email address. (No worries–only we’ll see this form!) I’ll do my best to contact you when we listen to one of your suggestions!

You’re probably a music buff and are just bursting with suggestions. Well, lucky you, you can resubmit the form as many times as you want with new stuff.

Thanks so much in advance. We can’t wait to hear from you!


If the embedded form doesn’t work on the WVT site, access just the suggestion form here.

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The day we got married in photos.

It has been one week since we got married, and I have been putting off posting because I have so many pictures. And also because I don’t think I can adequately express all my feelings about the day.

Briefly, the wedding day went like this:

I woke up, went for a three-mile run, did my own hair (showering and blow-drying) and make-up, and made some chalk art on the sidewalk. It immediately started raining.

Wedding Victory Chalk

Wedding Victory Chalk

Harrison and his family arrived, and we drove to Libby Hill Park for the 10:00am ceremony. We caught a ten-minute break in the rain to get married. I thought I would care about the rain and my lack of control, but I really didn’t.

I also thought I would cry, but I didn’t. It all just came together “perfectly” (but, of course, imperfectly), which sounds so sappy-awful-wedding-cliché. It was exactly what we wanted: short, funny, no vows–just “I do’s”.

After the short and sweet (but tear-less, on our part) ceremony, we went back to my mom’s house for coffee and snacks. My dad treated us all to a special rap-song that mostly involved blowing raspberries:

wedding rap

Then we went to lunch at Tarrant’s, but I forgot to get a picture.

In the afternoon, we met back up with our photographer, Eva at photo lady love, for some cool Richmond-y shots. (Will post soon!)

Then we checked into the Jefferson where we got free champagne (and other fancy “romance package” perks)!

Champagne!

We reconnected with high school friends at Bottom’s Up Pizza for dinner:

Bottom's Up, wedding dinner, casual

 

Instead of dancing, we entertained ourselves by trying to draw a free-hand an extremely accurate map of the US:

Freehand map of the US

Then it was Comfort for banana pudding, drinks, and fellowship:

banana pudding at Comfort, Richmond Ben bought us champagne!

It was really the best it could have been. I was worried that I would finish the day and feel disappointed that it wasn’t bigger or somehow different. Most important to us was having a fun day by spending time with friends and family, and they really delivered on that one. We feel very lucky, indeed.

More pictures, mostly from my camera, here:

 

 

 

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Married!

Wedding Victory Chalk!

Wedding Victory Chalk!

After a short-but-sweet morning ceremony and lunch with our parents, we ate dinner with our high school friends:

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So, apparently we’re not so good at drawing a map of the US free-hand.

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Marriage License: Acquired!

In case you’re reading this and thinking about getting married in Virginia, you can apply for and receive a marriage license in any circuit court in the state–not necessarily for the city or county in which you plan to be married. This is how we ended up getting a license from Middlesex County Circuit Court, rather than deal with the mountains of bureaucracy at the John Marshall Courts Building.

VA marriage license

We also visited Libby Hill Park (our ceremony site) today.

Libby Hill Park fountain, Richmond, VA

Not a bad view, eh?

Libby Hill Park fountain, Richmond, VA

 

I think almost all things for Friday have been purchased, ordered, or acquired.

And in preparation for Wedding Victory Tour, I have purchased a windbreaker. Very exciting!

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Taking engagement photos is awkward.

Several months ago, our friend Chris, acoustic phonetician, photographer, audiophile, and all-around badass, generously offered to take engagement photos of us. At first, we declined because  we figured that without a large wedding (and Save-the-Dates), we wouldn’t need any glammed-up-yet-casual photographs of ourselves. Moreover, I assumed that as the world’s least romantic couple, taking couples-based photos would be an uncomfortable and awkward experience.

I eventually changed my mind about this and decided that engagement photos would be good practice for wedding photography. Chris cut us an awesome deal (a new camera strap and Mexican dinner!), and we roughly planned to take photos when spring hit Champaign.

Unfortunately, Spring of a Thousand Changes happened, and we ran hard up against our date of exodus from the Midwest. This is how we ended up taking our engagement photos in the week that we moved, graduated from grad school, and packed for seven weeks on the road.

Did we buy new outfits? (No.) Did I pluck my eyebrows? (No.) How did my nails look? (Horrible.) Was I totally frazzled? (Yes.)

I cannot believe that I am the only person who approached engagement photos (and couples photography, in general) with trepidation! Does anyone else feel uncomfortable about the prospect of being romantic in front of a photographer? How do other couples look so natural and happy?

[Actually, the Internet will prove that some people are just really bad at taking romantic photos.]

When Chris requested that I send him photos of what I liked and disliked in “e-photography” styles, I basically nixed all romantic poses, including reclining, kissing, embracing, carrying, staring into each other eyes, smiling at each other, and holding hands. Suffice to say, he had his work cut out for him.

I’d like to tell you that taking engagement photos was not awkward, but I’d be lying. It was awkward. We’re not very affectionate, so the addition of two other people–even though they are our friends–made everything feel somewhat forced. Sometimes, I didn’t even want to make eye contact because I’d start to giggle or feel really uncomfortable. When he told us to talk to each other, I somehow ran out of things to say or wanted to gripe about things like the eight-thousand things still left unchecked on our to-do list (No good for engagement photos!).

This is not to say that I think Chris wasn’t an excellent photographer; we’re just bad at being romantic. He was super-professional and didn’t insist that we take photos that we weren’t comfortable with. He basically just let us goof around as ourselves for most of the time and suggested some even cooler shots that we wouldn’t have thought of. He even had a handkerchief on hand when Harrison sliced open his hand on a particularly vengeful tree branch in the U of I arboretum.

And, in the end, his photos look reallllllly good! Within twelve hours, he had edited our photos–no cheesy vignettes or edge-softening. The changes aren’t even noticeable. The photos just look really nice.

Yes, taking engagement photos was a little awkward. At least, it was for us. We’re certainly not styled to perfection, by any means. But we have a collection of colorful photographs that capture us looking happy and honestly like ourselves in one of the most stressful weeks of our lives. And as a bonus, we got to hang out with Chris for a few hours, which was a rare treat in a time of dissertations and job applications.

So, would I take engagement photos again? No, probably not.

Am I glad we did it? Fo’ sho’ yes!

Thank you so much, Chris! We wouldn’t take engagement photos again UNLESS they were with you. You are a great friend, and we will miss you terribly. Best of luck and know that whenever we watch “Inglorious Basterds,” we will think of you.

[Check out more of Chris’ work here.]

And without further ado, photos! (Click to enlarge.)

How do you feel about engagement photos? Did you take them, and what was it like? Are you planning on taking them? 

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The 17-Year Itch.

Apparently, 2013 is a year that the 17-year cicadas will descend upon Richmond, VA in massive swarms.

In case you don’t know what a cicada is….

I’m not talking about the run-of-the-mill, annual, green and white cicada. No, I’m talking about the black, orange-tinged, red-eyed cicadas that emerge from the ground in large, noisy quantities. After engaging in cicada orgy, they quickly die off, leaving the ground littered with their crunchy-yet-squishy carcasses.

De-light-ful!

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I don’t remember the last time the 17-year cicadas arrived in Richmond, but general math skills tell me that it happened in 1996. Harrison remembers that “they were everywhere” and were “really loud.”

“And I saw them having sex,” he adds.

Enough people are concerned about the emergence of the cicadas in wedding season that Cicada Mania even has a section of the website devoted to how to deal with them at your wedding. Basically? You’re screwed.

We’re getting married outside, and Richmond falls right in the middle of the reported brood appearances. In all likelihood, in addition to our parents, we will have hundreds, if not thousands, of [uninvited] wedding guests in the vicinity of our nuptials next Friday.

[More cicada commentary: “They’re like little space aliens,” says Harrison.]

However, given that our wedding on May 24th is actually very small, I don’t see the need to move our “ceremony” inside. Our officiant claims to have a seven-minute ceremony memorized, and we have no music, readings, or unity candle rituals. There will be no tent and no outside food for cicadas to crawl in. And if there are some cicadas in our pictures, that’s fine, too. According to Harrison, there is around a 1% chance of having your wedding fall in the middle of the 17-year cicada emergence. Maybe it bodes well for our marriage…thousands of little good-luck bugs.

This all being said, if one flies up my dress or crawls up my neck, Ima’ scream reaaaaaal loud.

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Bachelorette Party!

Kayla, my de facto bridesmaid, threw not only an engagement fiesta in the fall but also hosted my bachelorette party last weekend. Well, really, I should say that Kayla, Cassandra, and Jin threw me a bachelorette party because all three contributed in their own, er, special ways.

Kayla knows that I aim to become the “Modern Face of Temperance.” [Seriously, Carrie Nation was a real badass, but she wasn’t really endearing herself to anyone by chopping up bars with an axe and a grumpy face, was she?] She prepared this delightful “mock-tail” bar with really delicious fruity drinks, none of which were sullied by the foul taste of alcohol.

Bachelorette Mocktail Bar

I sampled a lot of beverages….

Mocktails!

 

Kayla also amassed the strangest, most obscure facts about engagements and weddings for some trivia.

Bachelorette Trivia

Staci and Ester, who had attended the most bachelorette parties, did the best. They were gracious winners.

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Cassandra and Jin? Um, not so much. Jin may have confused “wedding bands” (the rings) with musical groups. Oops.

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Me and Aileen? If we were tested on wedding knowledge, this would be our grade.

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For dinner, Jin gave us a lesson on how to make kimbap (Korean rice rolls filled with vegetables and other tasty fillings, including radish that gives you cancer when eaten in massive quantities.)

Kim bap party

Actually, we all gave ourselves a lesson on how to make kimbap. Trial by fire!

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Some of us had better results…

homemade kimbap

…than others.

kimbap fail

But that’s okay because Jin would never laugh at your kimbap. Ever.

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For her part, Cassandra really made a concerted effort to give my bachelorette party a “traditional” feel: a crown, a sash, pink balloons. She also did her damnedest to try to embarrass me with phallic gummy candies and “dirty” gifts. (Little did she know that I have no shame, mwahahaha!) She even covered a pair of lacy underwear with so much bedazzling that it can pull double duty as a chastity belt.

bachelorette party gifts

Somehow, I made room in my tummy for Staci’s blueberry lemon cake.

Blueberry lemon bundt cake

Meanwhile, Cass made room for some imitation crab stick but was embarrassed about it.

eating imitation crab

And then it was off to our local noraebang to finish the night with Korean karaoke!

Korean Karaoke, bachelorette pa

Thanks so much to Kayla, Cassandra, and Jin for hosting such a delightful and fun bachelorette party. I’m not very conventionally fun by 20-something anyone’s standards, so I appreciate the time and effort they took to celebrate my last month (Eek! Less!) of non-married life. Though, I hope that when I am married, I will still eat kimbap and play games and not be embarrassed by singing “Since U Been Gone” at the top of my lungs….

 

 

 

 

 

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WVT Goes to Hollywood!

I will preface this post by saying that Mica and I have wildly different opinions of southern California. I once spent a summer in Pasadena, and I think Mica’s experience is limited to a family reunion in San Diego and watching my brother graduate from Harvey Mudd.

Mica stops to smell the roses in SoCal!

So basically, neither of us knows anything about what SoCal is actually like. That said, Mica is terrified of southern California because everybody is beautiful, there’s lots of traffic and smog, and they have earthquakes [Mica: Also, mudslides and wild fires]. I think southern California is pretty much the greatest place ever because the weather is nice all the time (except when they go into deep freezes and it gets down into the 40s), they have ocean and mountains right next to each other, and everybody is beautiful. Nowhere are all of these things more true than in Los Angeles.

Harrison & a stubby palm tree

You may have noticed on our previous “Tentative Tour Dates” post that Los Angeles was listed as an unconfirmed destination. That’s code for, “we would like to go there, but we have no couch on which to surf.”

Fortunately, through the miracle of the internet, we were able to connect with somebody who in fact does have a couch (The couch, at this point, is a metaphor; we will actually sleep in a real life bed) on which we can surf. Not only that, but the proverbial couch is in Hollywood Hills! Major thanks to our friend Catherine for hunting down LA’s most fabulous airbnb listings!

I didn’t even know Hollywood Hills was the name of an actual place, but it is, and how can it not be full of richy rich people/houses/trees/dogs/trash cans?! We’re less than a mile from Mulholland Drive! I don’t really know the significance of that, but they made a movie about it! It has to be awesome, right?! [Mica: Yes, because all things that have been made into movies are awesome. Twilight franchise, I’m looking at you!]

As you can see, I am excited. After our stay, I reckon we will leave LA via Sunset Blvd. and Rodeo Drive, just in case I haven’t OD’d on chihuahuas and Ferraris yet. If you have any recommendations in or around the Hollywood Hills area, please let us know!

Bonus: If you made it this far, here’s a song that is vaguely about California and is a throwback to our first year of dating. Awwwwww.

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